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Michael Beasley Is Not Alone


By Mike DeArmond - Posted on 24 August 2009

I come not to criticize or praise Michael Beasley, but to empathize with him.
Yahoo Sports is reporting the former Kansas State basketball star, now a member of the NBA Miami Heat, is being treated for depression-related issues at a Houston rehabilitation facility. The Associated Press is reporting the same contention.
When I read those accounts today, I wanted to throw up.
Why?
Because I’ve been there. Three years ago, I spent a night in a psychiatric care facility under observation for depression.
It may have been the worst night of my life. They took my shoestrings, my belt. Informed doctors and nurses take depression seriously. I felt exactly how Beasley apparently felt when he left a cry for help on an Internet account:
"Feelin like it's not worth livin!!!!!!! I'm done" and "I feel like the whole world is against me. I can't win for losin’.”
It doesn’t matter why you feel that low. It matters only that you do. And trust me, you do.
I spent only the one night under lock and key, of my own volition. I spent several weeks in day-long group therapy sessions and it is those sessions that I honestly will tell you saved my life.
My last day of group therapy, I told my fellow sufferers that I would carry a part of each of them around with me for the rest of my life. The part that helped me gain perspective again.
It is why I’m sharing my experience. I was helped off a ledge by others sharing their experiences with me.
I don’t begin to know a thing about what demons are chasing Michael Beasley, if indeed there are any. Depression’s causes and symptoms are as varied as the different people you’ll meet walking down the street.
Some depressives are alcoholics or drug addicts. Many, like me, are not.
For me, depression was - and on some days still can be - measured by the certainty that beneath my feet, just under the ground upon which I stand, lurks a deep, dark lake knowing no horizon.
Its surface is not ruffled by waves, or even a ripple. But to descend into the dark’s caress is to give up all hope. Loss of hope, I contend, beggars the loss of life.
If Michael Beasley is teetering over that abyss, then I pray he receives the help I received. I pray we let him seek that with the understanding I was granted by people at The Kansas City Star, by family, by friends.
It is the least we all could do.


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Nice work Mike-it is such a gift when people are able to step forward and be honest about their struggles as you are. As a psychiatrist I spend much of my time trying to convince my patients that they are not alone. I often have felt that the biggest improvements come when people share their suffering with one another and through this gain strength-and hope that life can get better. It is sad to me that so many people still feel they must hide their struggles.

were never written, Doctor. I know I felt so much like hiding at first. And bless the psychiatrist who treated me when he said "what took you so long" to seek help. Those words opened a door in my brain; it was okay to ask for help.

I truly hope Michael gets to read your blog. I have been in a similar situation and you feel alone. It is nice to hear from others who have been "there." A wonderful gesture on your part Mr. DeArmand to extend your thoughts and experiences to all those in this kind of situation. I hope Michael gets the help he needs and has a prosperous future, NBA or not. Thanks for a wonderfully written article. An uplifting story for all to share.

I wanted to let you know that I find your ability and willingness to share incredibly brave. Thank you for doing so.

All the best,

-Ryan

Thank you for you kind comment. I don't feel brave, however. This is something you feel a need to do when you come out of the shadows of depression: acknowledging that no one stands alone in this. Depression thrives in a dark closet. You expose it to the light and you have a chance of chasing it away.

Hopefully, it will help some people out.

Excellent comments to put this all in perspective Mike. He must be in a bad spot and that was his way to share it with people.

If you don't mind, how did you seek help? Did you do it on your own, or did you kind of hint at it maybe the way Beasley did on his twitter account.

Either way a sad situation, maybe he tried to grow up too fast. Hope he has a similar situation as you, and helps him grow as a person and a professional.

Again, thanks for sharing one of your personal stories.

Basically had a nervous breakdown on a transatlantic flight from Switzerland back to Kansas City. Called a doctor during a layover. Couldn't get an appointment right away. Wound up calling the hospital direct the next day. Reason I'm sharing is that it might help someone else.

I'm sure this is helping people, especially with the extra anxiety of the economy and the daily stresses of life. Hope you keep up with the story and everything turns out well for Michael.

I had a severe depressive episode in high school and a psychotic breakdown four years ago when I was a freshman at Syracuse University. I wrote my perspective on Beasley's hospitalization on my blog www.bipolarrealities.com.

Direct link: http://bipolarrealities.wordpress.com/2009/08/24/my-take-on-michael-beas...

Hope you are well Mike!

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